Peace of Music

“Music has charms to sooth a savage breast.â€
Congreve, The Mourning Bride
When I heard the very sad news earlier this week that a friend and colleague Robert Hilferty had died, I was stunned. He was younger than me by two years. A former ACT-UP activist, music critic and filmmaker, he was a firebrand of ideas, opinions and passions. I was somewhat intimidated by his relentlessly upbeat personality and can-do attitude. Didn’t he ever feel the dread of attending a large gathering? Of working a room? He never seemed to shy away from assignments. He struck me as fearless. And I recall once when we both were in Lucerne covering the music festival there a few years ago, how he seemed to burn his candle at both ends. While I was making notes before going to bed about what I’d seen that day, terrified that I’d forget an important detail, he was out on the town soaking up the nightlife, dreaming up other stories to pitch. I envied him his inexhaustible energy. So to find out that Robert, below, has died, was a total shock and a kind of wake-up call.

The circumstances of his death are still not clear. He apparently endured a personal struggle with the aftereffects of a painful head injury. None of it makes sense to me. But should it? Does it need to? What’s important is that I try and recall the good times we shared and the contributions he made. I remember the expert help he offered me when he was an editor at Stagebill magazine. I recently combed my archives and came up with this piece I wrote about ten years ago under his direction. I can’t even remember if it ever saw the light of day. I have not been able to lay my hands on a hard copy. But I do remember Robert encouraging me to go deeper into my personal experience to describe the healing effects of music, in particular how it helped me get through the deaths of my parents a few years prior to that. It never occurred to me then that I’d be relying on it now to deal with his own absence. I even posted a song in his memory on Facebook. Tino Rossi singing Chopin’s étude, Tristesse.
Since I wrote this piece (and I am the first to admit that it is essentially quite trivial) there has been a revolution in technology. This essay was designed as filler for a small magazine handed out at concerts. Today I can put it on my blog, add photographs, redesign it as I see fit, and perhaps most amazingly, thanks to the marvels of YouTube, insert links to performances of the selections of music cited in the article! I think Robert would be pleased to know that I’m finally beginning to understand and take full advantage of the internet.
The Sounds of Silence
I imagine it’s happened to all of us at some point in our lives. We turn to music to heal us. Pachelbel’s “Canon,†Handel’s “Largo†or Beethoven’s Missa Solemnis. Or perhaps, as it has become fashionable today, a medieval chant, the rippling harmony of falling water, or a mesmerizing, monochromatic piece by Philip Glass. For some it’s simply the soothing voice of a crooner like Josh Groban, or for more traditional stylists, a Portuguese fado sung by Amalia Rodrigues, below.
I can’t remember exactly when I first recognized the relaxing effects of music. Was it when I was still a toddler in my crib and my father would play his favorite Tchaikovsky album on the stereo, unwittingly lulling me to sleep? I recall, in particular, a recording of the Russian composer’s famous “Violin Concerto in D Major†that always took my breath away. It still does, especially if it’s the amazing Maxim Vengerov on the violin. Now thanks to the internet, one can actually see and hear the great Heifetz render it in his fearlessly, fiery fashion, below.
Or was it later, while visiting my aunt and uncle in Ireland? During a bike trip across the country, my cousin and I had visited the Aran Islands. One night we’d gone to a pub and sitting beside the peat fire was an old blind woman with a voice that seemed to call across the centuries. Maybe I’m imagining the singer’s blindness (hindsight is often prone to exaggeration, especially when moved by melancholy speculation) but the effect of her heartfelt singing remains as clear as a bell. It seemed to banish any unpleasant thoughts or trifles, filling the room with an air of peace, even if it was a bittersweet one. Ironically, it is often the strains of music that alleviate the strains of life.

Later when I went away to boarding school as a teenager, I encountered occasional difficulties with my schoolmates, some of whom were hell bent on torturing me with their taunts and practical jokes. I suppose you could say I was a shy, nervous adolescent, prone to self-pity and day-dreaming. But at night, with the barbs and jeers ringing in my ears, I retired to my small dorm room, put on my brand new (and in those days enormous) headphones and drowned out my frustrations in a sea of gorgeous sound. In those days, I listened primarily to Bach and I particularly recall a recording of St. Matthew’s Passion that I had borrowed from the library in which the ethereal effect of Peter Pears’s eerie tenor erased all fears. Even then I wasn’t sure if it was the message of the words or simply the pure, radiant sound that I found so liberating. It didn’t matter. What mattered is that I got out of myself and into a space where beauty reigned, fairness ruled, and the music of the spheres was all around me. I also learned, as I expanded my repertory, to love his partner Benjamin Britten’s music, especially his War Requiem.
Sometimes I find music I will rely on in unusual places. I remember one afternoon about ten years ago while visiting a friend in New England. We’d gone to a trendy café, the kind with ice cream parlour chairs and piles of abandoned books for the taking. We were having an argument, about what I can’t recall, and neither of us at first noticed the classical music that was aired on the radio and piped through the restaurant. But as our tempers flared, I couldn’t help hearing the incredibly powerful music playing in the background. I had never encountered such an extraordinary mood of reconciliation, of rapprochement and acceptance! Suddenly as the symphony surged to a dramatic climax, my friend and I looked at each other and burst into smiles. For who could find room in his heart at that moment for anything but understanding and compassion? The piece turned out to be Richard Strauss’s ground-breaking tone poem, Death and Transfiguration. I immediately went out and bought a copy of the composition and have savored its life-affirming message often.
On another occasion, many years earlier, I’d gone to the movie theater across from the Plaza Hotel in New York City to see a screening of Visconti’s Death in Venice. Getting there had been a miserable experience of stalled subway trains, bumper to bumper traffic, pouring rain and general gloom. This was the 70s and New York had not yet recovered its giddy spirit. Furious that I was so late, I slipped into a seat, doffed my raincoat and umbrella, and let the film, with its extraordinary use of color and imagery, wash over me like a tidal wave. But it was the music that really felt cleansing. Visconti had wisely chosen the “Adagietto†movement of Mahler’s 5th Symphony to convey the tranquility and surrender Aschenbach feels while watching Tadzio on the beach with his family and playmates. The fact that Aschenbach is slowly dying, of course, doesn’t immediately hit home, and perhaps I was misreading the maudlin splendor of it all.
Adding to my sense of awe was the fact that the fashionable woman sitting in front of me had a closely cropped head of striking purple hair! I saw the entire film through the scrim, or more precisely, nimbus, of her violet crown. Later, listening to the music at home, I found it even more inspiring and majestic, especially hearing it in context with the rest of Mahler’s energetic and at times bracing symphony.

Wagner is the king of relaxing music, perhaps simply because of the seriousness and at times ponderous nature of his works. No doubt, their weighty length plays a part. Focusing your attention on any stretch of music for twenty to thirty minutes without pause is bound to have a quelling, hypnotic effect. Whenever I feel that I need succor for my sorrows, I put on the overture to Parsifal, all twenty magnificent minutes of it. Its snail-like pace, its rich tonalities, its lush harmonies with their feudal religiosity always do the trick. So too Wagner’s aptly named Siegfried’s Idyll which is not from his opera Siegfried. It was written for his son by that name and first played on Wagner’s wife Cosima’s birthday in 1871.

While staying at the Villa Triebschen, above, in Lucerne, Wagner hired a group of musicians to come and play the composition on the stairwell, as a gentle reveille for his wife and son. Its moving theme is based on an old German cradle-song. When I visited the site years later, and roamed its magnificent gardens, I made sure to bring a copy of the music with me.
Indeed, most of the world’s relaxing music owes its effect to lullabies. Villa Lobos’s delicious “Vocalise,†a feast of song without words, is a prime example. So too Rusalka’s hypnotic hymn to the moon in Dvorak’s opera. Both Bach (via Gounod) and Schubert’s Ave Maria sound as if they could be sung to a child to help him sleep. Listen to Beverly Sills version and you’ll never need an anti-anxiety pill again. I have a friend who listens to the trio at the end of Act Three of Der Rosenkavalier before going to bed when he feels stressed out. (Needless to say, he lives alone.) The soaring melody, the underlying lullaby, the sense of time passing and the unending promise of hope have kept music aficionados in its thrall since the opera’s debut in 1911. I find greater quietude by listening to Strauss’s less ecstatic Four Last Songs, especially the silvery Sena Jurinac rendition, because they so beautifully articulate Hermann Hesse’s sense of lyrical repose (the first three lieder are based on his romantic poems) and Strauss’s uncanny understanding of the resiliency of the human spirit.
Not everyone finds music so enchanting. Especially if it’s played poorly. I’m reminded of a famous anecdote about George Bernard Shaw, who got his start writing music criticism. One night while dining with a friend at a restaurant, the leader of the orchestra playing there recognized the critic and asked what he would like the group to play next. “Dominoes,†Shaw replied.
But it was another playwright, William Shakespeare, who best summed up the healing power inherent in good music. In his play King Henry VIII, the bard praises the magical effect Orpheus had on the world around him. It’s a message that half a millennium later still hits home:
“Everything that heard him play,
Even the billows of the sea,
Hung their heads, and then lay by.
In sweet music is such art,
Killing care and grief of heart
Fall asleep or hearing die.†![]()



















































